Seven months later, I got into a new relationship, and I told her about it. This doesn’t mean they don’t love you enough: it is what it is.Because of how she came to understand the concept of jealousy, here’s how our dialogue turned out…Me: I have a new girlfriend now, Princess. Their affection for you and their ability to hyperfocus tend to be mutually exclusive. As a cosplayer, Princess will often be oblivious to everyone and everything else while she imbibes her character.A Pennsylvania writer and artist who wasn’t diagnosed with AS until he was 41, Matthews possesses all of the tell-tale signs of high-functioning autism — remarkable intelligence, social awkwardness, a wealth of personality tics and other idiosyncrasies.Occasionally a viewer might feel like the film is making him appear more eccentric than he really is (the questioning about his masturbation practices was certainly intrusive and unnecessary), but for the most part Sokolow’s subject comes across as disarmingly relatable. By painting his romantic tribulations as akin to a cultural difference (Matthews’ own analogy) instead of a mental condition, the viewer is able to see him as a decent man adapting to strange customs rather than as some ineffably different “other.” Indeed, from its opening frame, the movie practically invites its audience to shout feedback and advice back at the screen.Just as men and women are different, just as a guy who likes sports and a geek who likes comics are different, aspies and people without Asperger’s (often referred to as neurotypical, or NT for short) are different.These differences manifest themselves in different ways, but the key thing to understand is that aspies are not necessarily disabled or impaired, and can function quite well in society, regardless of difficulties. Princess graduated from college earlier this year, and is taking her second major.If you plan to date an aspie for long, you should learn to address their differences without making it clear to them that you are doing so.Whether you are dating someone with Asperger’s, or strongly feel that the person you are dating has it, then you need to learn more about Asperger’s.
And like anyone else, aspies, as they are fondly referred to, certainly are capable and deserving of love and affection, even romance.It just means they have to understand what is sweet and romantic, and why it is, through patient explanation and reasoning. When Princess and I broke up, there was no drama involved. You didn’t open your mouth.”Aspies tend to have certain interests that they hyperfocus on.This sometimes leads to strange but amusing results. We went back to being friends right away, and little changed between us. Some aspies end up being classified as geniuses because of this, but it also means that this kind of hyperfocus comes at the expense of a lot of other things. An aspie who hyperfocuses can and will neglect you, even if they do care about you.It’s especially worse if they aren’t actually diagnosed with it yet, which means that they aren’t even aware that they’re different, and unless you are a qualified professional, you have no business playing psychologist for them and lampshading their difference. Every single time I would mention that she’s an aspie, Princess would promptly punch my arm or scratch me.That’s how she copes with it, and soon enough, I knew better than to bring it up.