We only lasted a couple more months before the stress of seeing each other while she was still married overwhelmed us….. I just didn’t want to get into the whole “I’m in the process” conversation.We said we would take it up when the divorce was complete, and the house was sold. They even had another baby after we had our relationship. Well, this relationship flourished and we started dating exclusively.At this point I started to feel really guilty about not telling him I was not officially divorced yet, especially because I was keeping contact with my ex regarding the divorce process.I felt that if I told him that truth he would be angry at me for not telling him sooner and not trust me. I tell myself that I shouldn’t date anyone but at the same time it’s so exciting to meet new people and feel attractive, go out, have fun and sex. I think there is no one ‘right’ answer to the question.
I had asked each of them whether their divorce was final before meeting in person, and they all said yes! Many studies confirm that isolation doesn’t just make us miserable, it can literally make us ill.But still, it’s misleading: “I knew that when I said “I’m divorced” he thought that it was official…I just didn’t want to get into the whole “I’m in the process” conversation.“ Unsurprisingly, some folks are unwilling to extend their emotional exile.Maybe they just want fun, sex, and a break from the bleakness.