When he needs connection or the fantasy of a relationship, he can effectively “order out” for a date.
By avoiding actual human contact he isn’t forced to push his boundaries or risk challenging the perfection of his fantasy women with the experience of a real life woman.
The longer he continues the lie, the worse the discovery is.
Relationships that start by duping a partner don't end well. Sooo Busy This is the former Ivy League rower, now a neurosurgeon who has chosen the Internet to meet women who are likely on their own tight timelines.
However, starting a relationship with a lie—now matter how “harmless” it may seem to him—takes away from the woman’s ability to use her own discretion and decision-making power and therefore erodes trust.
Or perhaps something pivotal is missing in his relationship, and he wants to be reminded or reassured there is life beyond his current confines.
For this article I used the descriptions of women who have shared their online dating experiences with me to describe 11 types of (heterosexual) men who are drawn to Internet dating.
I realize, as do you, that there are infinite varieties of men who engage in online dating for infinite reasons.
Either way, unlike the first type listed, he has probably had more positive than negative dating experiences overall, so he may be open right away or over time to a committed, authentic relationship.
However, given his age and other potential factors such as how easily distracted he is, once he discovers just how many choices he has online, he may become less interested in committing and more interested in continuing to look around. The Experimenters He believes that older women “know what they want.” He is typically 20 to mid 30's and he wants often because he believes that an older woman has much to teach him sexually, and this prospect excites him.