by messages from hopeful (sometimes desperate) men - so much so that the average pretty girl with options doesn't last longer than a few weeks on the site before throwing her hands up in frustration and resignation and abandoning her account. Grizzled POF dating veterans who cut through newbie online dating hopefuls like female paramilitary troopers trained at mercilessly crushing and cannibalizing the unready and unprepared.
So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.
The same thing has happened to loads of my friends now – intelligent, interesting, beautiful girls.
So what (and excuse my French) the fuck is going on? Because while a bloke (or girl for that matter) disappearing after a shag is nothing new, what’s makes the TDMo T unique is the complete contrast between the constant, over-the-top, effusive messages before you meet up (and have sex), and the total radio silence afterwards.
If you don’t believe me, just try to explain it to your parents: ‘So, you just look at these people, you don’t talk to them? Then things all went a bit crazy: I ended up being given a last-minute holiday to Iceland for free with a plus one, so I invited him and we went away for four days.
We met up, and it was good – he was smart, a bit awkward, but sweet and I ended up sleeping with him on the first date.