We even scoured the top 400 most popular Ok Cupid profiles—the hottest people on the site in ten US cities—to see what their profile pics could tell the rest of us about attracting a date.
We couldn’t have done any of this without the help of the data maestros at Match and Ok Cupid: Christian Rudder, cofounder and president of Ok Cupid, and Jim Talbott, director of consumer insights at
So, ladies, here’s how to write a dating profile to attract men, according to our years of experience and numerous studies we’ve looked into.
A couple of studies published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and reported on by The Huffington Post shows confident, and even overconfident, online daters are considered more desirable. The studies also found that if you take it too far, then you’ll come off as arrogant instead.
Mentioning cats is fine, but mention “my cats” and you’re a weirdo.
At Girl Friends Meet you'll have all the tools at your disposal to contact and hear from exactly who you are looking for.Think about how you would feel if you read a guy’s profile that said something like “I want a blonde, blue-eyed woman who isn’t over 5’5″, is a doctor, doesn’t smoke, has never been married, loves dogs but hates cats, enjoys Italian food but hates Indian food, knows every word to every Beatles song, and has visited all Seven Wonders of the World.” OK, that’s an extreme example, but you know what I mean.Avoid lists like “I want a blonde, blue-eyed man who is over 6 feet tall, is a doctor, doesn’t smoke, has never been married, loves dogs but hates cats, enjoys Italian food but hates Indian food, knows every word to every Beatles song, and has visited all Seven Wonders of the World.” It’s unlikely that you’ll find someone who can check off all the things on your list, and you probably can’t check off everything on his list either. So, pick the most important qualities you’re looking for and be more specific about those instead of creating an exhaustive list.These guys and their data teams ran queries of all kinds and pulled spreadsheet after spreadsheet of information to try and answer our strange questions.We also needed Ok Cupid to get permission from their users to enable us to publish those popular profile pics.