He first noticed his attraction toward young children when he was 11.He’d developed a crush on a kindergartener at school, a boy, his desire fueled by brief, furtive glimpses of him in the halls.He was 16 years old, he was a pedophile, and he had to do something about it.We have a few go-to archetypes when it comes to pedophilia: There is the playground lurker, the chat-room predator, and the monstrous (often religious) authority figure. The defines a pedophile as an individual who “over a period of at least six months” has “recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children.” This person also has to have “acted on these sexual urges, or the sexual urges or fantasies cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty,” and be “at least age 16 years and at least five years older than the child or children” involved.
Though Adam didn’t want to hurt anyone, he knew that, on some level, he was just like him.
As anyone who’s read my abstinence column here at Louder With could guess, my wedding is something that I’ve looked forward to for quite some time. Because my wife and I were judged all throughout our relationship. If you’re young and wondering whether you should wait, whether you should just give in, become a live-in harlot/mimbo and do it the world’s way.
After having tied the knot at the end of August, I can now say beyond all shadow of a doubt, that it was everything I’d hoped and prayed that it would be since childhood. People laughed, scoffed and poked fun at the young, celibate, naive Christian couple. If you’re wondering whether all of the mocking, the ridicule, the incredible difficulty of saving yourself for your spouse is worth it, let me tell you without a doubt that it is.
These men are usually middle-aged, unrepentant serial abusers who are caught only after remaining undetected for years. Anecdotal evidence suggests that most pedophiles first notice an attraction toward children when they themselves are between 11 and 16, mirroring that of any other sexual awakening.
It can be a confusing time for any of us, but imagine realizing that you’re attracted to little kids. Or is it possible for them to live a life without hurting children at all? I came across a site for self-described pedophiles who acknowledged their attraction and wanted help dealing with it.